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<\/p>\nThe couple after Ijab Kabul<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n The next step is Ijab Kabul<\/em>, the equivalent of which is found in different religions. \u00a0It is an agreement between the bride\u2019s parents and the groom. In the agreement, the bride\u2019s parents declare their willingness to allow their daughter to be married by the groom. The declaration must be stated correctly by the bride’s father and the groom, otherwise the marriage can’t be made official by the penghulu <\/em>\u00a0(a local chief).<\/p>\n Javanese Wedding<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n The wedding ceremony is typically done on a different day, after the Ijab Kabul<\/em>. However, Lucky\u2019s ceremony was done right after Ijab Kabul<\/em> due to the limited time both families had while he was in Indonesia. \u00a0Javanese traditional wedding attire has adopted a modern approach, especially on the bride\u2019s outfit shown in the picture. However, it is still common to see traditional outfits in other weddings across Java.<\/p>\n Minangkabau wedding<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n In contrast to a Javanese wedding, Minangkabau weddings are mostly done traditionally. The wedding also has its own term in Minangkabau language: baralek<\/em>. In Lucky\u2019s case, the Minangkabau wedding ceremony was done symbolically, as most of the procession had been done in the Javanese tradition.<\/p>\n The bride and groom wear red and gold attire during the main ceremony. The bride wears an extravagant hair ornament which could weigh almost 5 pounds, whereas the groom wears a simpler red and gold outfit. The bride\u2019s hair ornament is so heavy that there are certain occasions in which the bride faints from having to endure wearing it for an extended time.<\/p>\n Minangkabau\u2019s wedding ceremony is just as festive as its Javanese counterpart. Traditional dances are performed at the start of ceremony to entertain the families and guests. Guests are treated with local dishes such as rendang<\/em>, which is a food staple in Minangkabau. The guests then give blessings to the couple and the couple\u2019s parents before leaving the ceremony. The wedding couple might not recognize some of the guests since they can be their parents\u2019 acquaintances whom the couple only met once prior to the ceremony.<\/p>\n Considering all the processions that must be done, the wedding is by no means cheap. It can be a once in a lifetime event for the couple, so the families believe the wedding should be done as exquisitely as possible to make it memorable. Therefore, sometimes the parents\u2019 family members would willingly chip in for the wedding to reduce the financial burden of the wedding preparation.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Lucky Agung Pratama is in the PhD program in the Built Environment, received his MS at UW in Construction Management in 2015, and is the Southeast Asia Center\u2019s Graduate Student Assistant this year.\u00a0 Originally from Padang, Sumatera, over winter break, Lucky traveled back to Indonesia to get married.\u00a0 Lucky\u2019s new wife is from Central Java.\u00a0<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/jsis.washington.edu\/seac\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/7\/2019\/01\/IMG-20181224-WA0017-375x250.jpg\")
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