Every conversation you have is a chance for a new friendship or relationship of any degree or kind. A key ingredient to this is to be open-minded. Let every conversation be a means to a beginning, not a means to an end. If you come into a conversation with an open mindset, who knows? The conversation might surprise you. It\u2019s natural to have first impressions. There were times during my experience where my first impression of someone was just that–a first<\/em> impression. Vancouver is a widely diverse city where I have met people from all around the world. I had engaging conversations of all types, from being about pizza (or any type of food in that case) across cultures with an Italian, to friendly debates about the differences between the United States and Canada with a local. There are people of whom my first impression was questionable, to say the least. However, my experiences abroad have taught me that there is always more than meets the eye. I also learned that although our experiences are unique to ourselves, we are all united together by one commonality–we are all human. While life experiences may be different, the emotions that shape us into who we are are also the means of how we can connect. Not only did I learn something new about other cultures or identities, but I learned about myself. I found some conversations required me to deeply reflect on my own beliefs or identities. This thought process made me more conscious of aspects that made me, well, me.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Take hold of rare opportunities<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n While I considerately warn others to not try and \u201cdo it all\u201d, I would say that taking advantage of opportunities can lead to a change of perspective. Opportunities may come in different forms. For example, I joined the Krav Maga Club at the University of British Columbia\u00a0 because my home institution, the University of Washington (UW), does not have a club like this. Joining this self-defense club taught me various lessons and changed my perception of strength. Before, I had the perceived notion that in order to fend for myself, I had to be physically strong. However, what participating in this club taught me may also be applied to life. As an average-sized woman, the disadvantages in potentially distressful situations might be evident.<\/p>\n Nonetheless, disadvantages are only allowed that title if one gives them that power. In other words, one can decide to focus on their limits, or they can choose to focus on what gives them strength. My size is an advantage because someone\u2019s assumed perception of me lacks that which is not physically apparent–my wit.<\/p>\n Or, in the wise words of the character Grimm in the movie Mirror Mirror<\/em>, \u201cpeople think you can\u2019t be tall if you\u2019re short. That you can\u2019t be strong if you\u2019re not. A weakness is only a weakness if you think of it that way\u2026 Before you even draw your sword, you must make an impression on your enemy. If he is deceived by the way you look, the battle\u2019s half won. People think of you as sweet. They don\u2019t expect you to fight dirty. Use that to your advantage.\u201d<\/p>\n Overall, rare opportunities allow for unique growth that may shape your outlook in life.<\/p>\n Write your plans in pencil <\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n This tip is one that I had to learn the hard way. There are two reasons why I recommend this way of planning. The first may seem obvious. As someone with first-hand evidence, humans cannot control the future (that I know of). Yes, plans are used to map out an ideal future, and it may be just me, but if things don\u2019t go according to plan, I become distraught. Months before I began my journey at UBC, I made plans that mapped out my experience down to the walking route to classes that I would take. I know, a little excessive, but I was excited to create an unforgettable experience abroad. To keep the story short, the inevitable happened–construction around campus began and my walking route no longer was an option. No, seriously, it was a nightmare. I had to learn to adapt in several ways to various situations during my time in Vancouver. Let\u2019s just say that I had to adjust so much so that my ideal plan was a strong contrast to my reality.<\/p>\n To paraphrase: I did not expect the unexpected. Which leads me to the second reason I recommend a pencil as your choice of writing instrument. A plan set in stone is a one with high expectations of an unattainable life. Think about it. Without any flexibility, a picture-perfect future is one without the excitement of what makes life such a thrill. In other words, expectations of the future drown out the experiences of the present. No amount of preparation could have helped me foresee the challenges that I experienced. Let me be clear: it\u2019s okay to feel lost at times during a person\u2019s time abroad. Don\u2019t get me wrong, having structure is great, but the point where it dictates every aspect of life will only lead to disappointment. By loosening the reins of expectation and preparing for unpredictability, the blow to my inner perfectionist did not cause me to crumble. We can get so wrapped up in worry about the uncertainty of the future that it causes us to lose sight of what truly matters, the precious fleeting moments of the present.<\/p>\n Rise above your thoughts<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n Self-talk is something we do often. From \u201cdid I remember to turn off the stove,\u201d to \u201cwow, that was so embarrassing. Why am I like this?\u201d Unconsciously, we say to ourselves a great deal more than we realize. That\u2019s why it can be important to become more self-aware and rise above thoughts that may weigh us down. Be alert, because there are several areas of your life where it may be easy to fall into the trap of listening to lies that tear through one\u2019s self-confidence. During my time abroad, I noticed three reoccurring thoughts that I had to confront time and time again:<\/p>\n —<\/p>\n\n
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